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Rumours of her potential divorce from Ashton Kutcher have been rife in past weeks and it looks like Demi Moore is starting to feel the strain. The actress cut an emaciated figure at the premiere of her latest film and she has clearly lost a lot of weight following the news of her possible divorce having surfaced. Moore’s situation mirrors that of many women who are experiencing marital tensions and divorce. Recent research has indicated that both men and women’s weight is likely to fluctuate following marital breakdown. There was disparity in the way that divorce affected the sexes, though: men were likely to gain a few pounds following a divorce, whilst women were likely to lose weight. The reports also indicated that any change in weight was likely to be negligible, but recent images of Moore suggest otherwise – the actress’s frail body could almost be described as ghoulish – and she appeared far from ready to confront the stress and anxiety that a divorce inevitably brings. The tabloid press have coined the term ‘divorce diet’ to describe people’s tendency to lose or gain weight following their marriage having ended. Worryingly, some blogs and forums have even suggested that such dramatic weight loss is desirable, arguing that it should give an unhappy wife all the motivation that she needs to file for divorce. Nothing could be further from the truth. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle is of the utmost importance whilst recovering from a divorce. Any individual whose weight undergoes considerable fluctuation during this stressful time is likely to find their recovery subjected to significant delay. Many people struggle following a divorce because of the significant damage that marital breakdown can have one their self-esteem. Our self-esteem is inexorably linked to our physiological health and our psychological health is inevitably linked to our physical health. Research has persistently shown that individuals who exercise regularly and eat a healthy diet are less likely to suffer from depression. That old saying’ healthy body, healthy mind’ is truer than you might think and regular exercise, coupled with healthy, balanced meals, can really help an individual to heal from any number of traumatic events, divorce included. Additionally, it is worth remembering that the vast majority of divorcees will, at some point, decide to pursue a new relationship. As we all know, the more attractive we feel, the more confident we tend to be. And, as confidence is an attractive quality, it is in a person’s best interest to maintain their physical appearance. I am not in any way suggesting that people adhere to what the media present as being desirable, I am merely stating that people should ensure that they, themselves, are happy with their bodies. Ultimately, maintaining one’s health is of paramount importance both during and after a divorce. Viewing one’s self in a positive way will improve one’s self-esteem and a positive sense of self-worth is an invaluable asset in the battle against divorce related depression. So, avoid the ‘divorce diet’, eat healthily and exercise regularly. Soon, you’ll find yourself happy, healthy and ready to commence a new life; a life that is full on new possibilities and opportunities.