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The internet is a wonderful thing. It’s revolutionised modern life in a manner that is almost unprecedented; the way in which we obtain advice on a variety of matters – such as how to manage our money, which white goods to buy and, of course, divorce – in particular. Whilst articles that are written by the recently divorced, therapists, lawyers and others can be extremely useful resources, it is essential that people realise that the vast majority are generic articles designed to appeal to as wide an audience as possible. In other words, advice gathered through the internet should be used to compile a framework for getting/coping with/finding new love after divorce – and should not be taken literally. Of these advisory articles, none are more run-of-the-mill than the permeating lists of top tens that populate news sites and personal blog. These articles – by appealing to our base psychological desires to catalogue and rank – entertain but, when the individual that is reading them fails to place them within the correct context (i.e. does not consider which points may or may not be of use to an individual in their position), provide very little information that could benefit a reader. This morning, for example, I stumbled across an article containing ten signs that a divorce may be looming. According to the article, you’re likely to be filing/receiving a divorce petition in the near future if you no longer ask your spouse for their opinions on a variety of subjects, you no longer find yourself engaging in in-depth conversations with them or if you occasionally find yourself directing a gratuitous comment to them. In other words, if one of many, many common circumstances apply to the reader’s individual circumstances then they, or their spouse, will be seeking a divorce in the near future.  Can anyone in any long-term relationship honestly say that they’ve never found that they and their spouse are communicating less, or that they’ve never made an offhand comment intended to hurt their partner? Such things are common with relationships; especially marriages. To cut a long story short, be mindful of your own situation when scouring the internet for divorce advice.You can find some great divorce advice by clicking here.