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Not every man going through divorce has the same worries. Some are dads, some are not. Some are focused on money, while others are worried about friends, work, or just how life will feel afterwards.

Here are the questions men ask us most often, with clear answers.

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Will I have to share my pension or savings?

As a starting point yes, pensions and savings can be shared in divorce. The court looks at the full picture of money, not just one thing. A financial order makes the split official and protects both of you for the future. If amicable, assets separation can be varied, as an example, one party could have a higher share of the house in exchange for less savings.

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What happens to debts we had together?

Debts, like loans or credit cards in both names, are usually shared. If the debt is only in one name, that person is normally responsible, unless the debt was used for the benefit of the family during the marriage like holidays, household goods & living costs.

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Do I have to sell my car or belongings?

Usually no. Everyday things like your car, clothes, or tools are not what the court focuses on. The bigger things, like the house, pensions, and savings, matter most.

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Will I still see my children as much?

Being a Dad doesn’t stop because of divorce and child arrangements are handled separate to the divorce. If it’s safe, the court wants children to spend as much time we both parents as possible. You and your ex can agree on when they’ll be with you. If you can’t agree, the court can make an order. We can help you write up your child arrangements order, simply give us a call on 0800 803 0813

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What happens if my ex won’t let me see the kids?

You can still apply to the court for a Child Arrangements Order. The court usually wants children to spend time with both parents. You don’t lose your role as a dad just because of divorce.

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How much will I pay in child maintenance?

Child maintenance is based on how much you earn and how many nights the children stay with you. The Child Maintenance Service has a calculator to work it out. If care is shared more evenly, payments may be less.

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Can I afford to live on my own after divorce?

This is often a big worry. You’ll need to look at your income, rent or mortgage, and bills. At first money can feel tight, but most men settle into a new routine over time. A fair financial order helps you plan for the future.

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Do I need a solicitor, or can I do this myself?

You don’t always need a solicitor in court. Many men use services like Quickie Divorce to handle the paperwork and guide them through the process. If things are simple and you both agree, you never need to step into a courtroom.

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Do I have to tell my boss or will work find out?

No, divorce is private. Work doesn’t need to know unless you choose to tell them. The only time work might get involved is if child maintenance is taken straight from your wages because payments were missed.

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Can divorce affect my friendships or social life?

Yes, sometimes. Friends may feel unsure about taking sides, or social circles may change. But many men find new friendships or get closer to family. It can take time, but your social life won’t end with divorce.

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What if I want to start dating again?

You can start dating once you feel ready. There’s no rule for or against it. Just remember that if you have children, it may take them time to adjust to new people in your life.

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What if I feel lonely or lost after the split?

This happens to a lot of men. Family life changes, and it can feel quiet. Talking to friends, joining groups, or getting help can make a big difference. You don’t have to go through it alone.

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✨ At Quickie Divorce, we know men face their own worries about money, children, and identity. Whatever your situation, we’re here to guide you step by step and help you move forward with confidence. Give us a call today on 0800 803 0813