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The majority of people who divorce feel embarrassed about the fact that their marriage has ended according to a recent study.

Additionally, almost half of all divorcees felt that they were judged by others because of their decision. Interestingly, in spite of numerous claims from various organisations that it is currently too easy to obtain a divorce and that this discourages couples from attempting to address marital dissatisfaction, more than 75 per cent of respondents reported that they tried to save their marriages. Furthermore, a third of respondents reported that they fought divorce for as long as they possibly could because they felt that ‘marriage should last forever.’

The study, which collated information provided by 1,000 divorced individuals, also found that people feel that it takes them, on average, four years to feel emotionally stable following their marriages having ended and that female respondents were twice as likely to feel guilty as male respondents. The vast majority of those that took part in the study also agreed with the widely held belief that divorce is harmful to those involved.

These findings support Quickie Divorce’s argument that making divorce easier will not bring about an increase in the divorce rate. Couples that experience difficulties within their marriages will, in almost all instances, strive to resolve matters. Divorce is nigh-on always an extremely difficult and painful process for those involved and simplifying the procedures involved will do little more than help couples and families who are affected by preventing conflict and, in the event of pre-nuptial agreements becoming mandatory, lengthy and harmful disputes over assets.

It is undoubtedly a great shame that some couples are unable to resolve matters and need to end their marriages but, when this is indeed the case, divorce is the lesser of two evils. Many may assume that couples with children will cause them significant damage if they separate, but numerous studies have suggested that it is the co-parenting techniques applied post-divorce, and not the end of the marriage itself, that is more likely to have an adverse effect on any children that may be involved. Furthermore, as many child psychologists have argued, growing up in an unhappy household can have an irreparable effect on the way children view romantic relationships.

So, we finally have proof that divorce is not easy and, ultimately, that no changes to legislation can make it so or, furthermore, encourage it.